We forget as parents that mistakes are inevitable. I’m aware that occasionally I forget to do it.
We all too frequently link making a mistake with failure in our well-intentioned quest to raise perfectly happy, successful children. In reality, research reveals that failure is necessary for success in the future. Our all-or-nothing failure viewpoint is not just incorrect. In reality, it undermines both our relationship with our kids and their sense of self-worth.
Sure, mistakes can occasionally be unpleasant, embarrassing, and inconvenient. But making errors promotes ingenuity and curiosity. A slip-up or error can teach our kids (often the hard way) a better way to go about things. Also, kids have a tendency to retain the lessons they learn from experience longer. Also, mistakes provide our children the opportunity to learn being brave and establishing and upholding appropriate limits.
I’m here to tell you, Mom and Dad, to calm down a little bit even though I understand that seeing your kids make errors can be upsetting right now. These mistakes can actually make your child’s life happier, more aware, and more successful.
Here are six errors that children should be permitted to make: 1. They create massive messes
We must let our children to create, experiment, and enjoy themselves, whether they are splashing in puddles or (oops!) scribbling on the walls.
We prepare a change of clothes for our children’s school lockers in case they step in some mud, ask them to use hand sanitizer between each lesson, and bundle them up against the chilly weather. But have you ever observed your child’s expression the first time they put their bare feet in that watery puddle? Unadulterated joy.
2. They occasionally receive “bad” grades
We’ve all heard stories of parents who construct their children’s science fair projects and write their children’s essays. Then, on occasion, we are forced to step in because our sixth-grader is suddenly having trouble writing a paper that must compete with a paper from a classmate, a document that may have been written by an adult.
3. They reply to you
Although though we want to think that modern parents have moved past the “It’s my way or the highway” manner of parenting, we nevertheless frequently take very personally everything our child yells at us or whispers behind our backs. We yell out indignantly, “Don’t talk back to me.
4. They occasionally give in and join the crowd.
Our kids want to blend in.
That’s advantageous.
This obviously depends on the group they’re following.
5. They dress in a “odd” way I’ll admit, I still dress oddly. I adore color and stylish outfit combinations as a writer and perceptive coach, and I mix and match a lot.
I wouldn’t be as inventive with clothing today if my mother hadn’t let me to wear her own vintage handmade macramé belt with my party dress as a child.
6. They quit and give up
We have a rule in our house that if you join up for something, you have to stick with it for a semester.
In our home, this rule was largely effective.
In the end, mistakes do occur.
If we allow our children to make their own decisions, whether good or bad, they will develop as individuals.
Indeed, we regret seeing them suffer, but discomfort spurs adjustment. After learning from their mistakes, they become powerful, independent, and more self-assured individuals rather than helpless children who immediately run to their mothers when they encounter difficulties.
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